024 – SPD – A Plan For The New Year


This will be another shorter episode.  I have been busy during the holidays and honestly just didn’t feel much like recording for the last week.  I will be out of town next week so I’m releasing this one on Friday instead of my normal Tuesday.  I should be back on schedule of recording on Monday evening and releasing it Tuesday morning as of Jan 14.

Well it’s a new year so that means many of you have made New Years resolutions.  You may have resolved to quit smoking, lose weight, find a new job, or just make 2013 a better year than 2012 because if your listening to this podcast there’s a good chance that 2012 wasn’t a very good year.

Now we all know that New Year’s resolutions very seldom stick.  Why? Well it’s because they are typically pie in the sky ideas that are often too big to realistically tackle.

I’ve given up on New Year’s resolutions and I think you should too.  Now I’m not saying give up on making yourself or your life better, just give up on the resolutions.  Instead, I like to spend the some time at the New Year to develop a plan for the coming year.

A plan is different than a resolution in that it has very specific, measurable goals with dates attached.

If I resolve to lose weight next year, which I desparately need to do, that is too vague.  So instead, I have a goal to lose at least 40 lbs. by my wedding date of May 31.  What’s the difference?  Losing 40 lbs by May 31st is a very specific goal that can be measured and tracked.  May 31st is 21 weeks from the date I’m recording this podcast.  I need to average losing 2 lbs per week to meet my goal.

So how does this relate to to surviving divorce?  Well, you need to make a plan on how 2013 is going to be a better year for you.  Getting over the hurt and anger is not something that is easy to measure, but you can find things that will help you on that path.  You may decide to find a support group to attend and go to your first meeting by Feb 1st.  You may decide you need a better job to take some of the financial stress off.  Your goals in that case may be to update your resume by Jan 15th, read 48 Days To The Work You Love by Feb 1st, and have a new job by April 1st.   Those are actionable goals that will make you life post divorce better.

I’ve been working on my plan for the Surviving Divorce Podcast over the past few days and I would like to ask for your help.  Go to SurvivingDivorcePodcast.com/survey and you will be taken to a brief ( 8 question ) survey that will give me some insight into who is listening and what your need’s are.  This show is really all about helping you so the more I know about you the better I can help.

I’d like to give a shout out to Bethany Perkin for leaving a review on iTunes.  If you haven’t done so yet, please consider going to iTunes and leaving a review.  It helps iTunes know that people are getting value from the podcast and keeps it up in the search results so that others can find it.

If you have a question or comment you can email me at feedback@survivingdivorcepodcast.com or call the listener feedback hotline at 347-433-7664.  I’d like to hear what some of your new years goals are so leave a comment below and let me know how you’re going to make 2013 a better year

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G.D. Lengacher is a life coach focusing on helping people heal after divorce. He produces the Surviving Divorce Podcast weekly.

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